Wednesday, October 06, 2010
Dear Brother Packer
I am impressed to respond to your address in the Sunday morning session of the October 2010 Conference. Because we can’t speak directly - this is my forum.
Bro. Packer, you referred to my sexuality as "impure and unnatural" and went further to say that it is not “inborn” after all "Why would our heavenly father do that to anyone? …”
Your question on its face is flawed. Because I fall outside “the plan” you have wrongly accepted that my sexuality is a sin, a burden and something that requires either healing or repentance. I want to convey to you that it is not. In fact, your feelings are miles away from my sure knowledge that I am in good standing with the Lord. I want you to know that I have been assured, through the spirit, time and time again that there is nothing immoral or shameful about me.
To paraphrase, the brethrens’ position as I understand it … the Church doesn't ask homosexuals to do anything it doesn't also ask of its other single adult members - to live celibate lives.
This simply isn't true.
The Church shows constant love and support to our single brothers and sisters: giving single members church callings; urging them to date, to flirt, to get crushes, to fall in love, to marry even sponsoring wards and activities to get them together to accomplish this. We ask them to be celibate - until they find someone to share their life and intimacy with. We go out of our way to give them something of immeasurable value in the struggle to keep the law of chastity - hope - hope that no matter how difficult this emotional and physical loneliness is, it is temporary, that when married (if not on earth then beyond) all will be available to them.
I have been asked not just to be celibate but to be celibate forever, to live a life alone eternally.
The question of sexual intimacy aside - can you imagine being denied the ability to become attracted to, flirt with, get a crush on, hold hands with, or fall in love with your sweet wife? With all trace of romantic love and emotional intimacy denied you what emptiness do you envision? I can’t for the life of me understand the brethrens’ position. It is a position that leads Heavenly Father’s children into despair. I have been reminded all my life that we should not blame the Lord for the human mistakes of the members or leadership. Because the spirit speaks to me I am compelled to apply that principle to you on this topic.
So, without a supportive path for me within the church I have drawn a distinction between celibate and being chaste.
I value and have always sought a chaste life. Although, the blessings of marriage are currently denied to me, I live in a committed, monogamous relationship and practice the Gospel virtues of love, commitment, and fidelity that my loving parents taught me at home. I will continue to do so proudly.
Next time you may want to consider saving the joke writer for a less important topic. Playing to the crowd for laughs may keep them engaged but I found you callous.
Monday, March 08, 2010
If this doesn't work out it won't be from lack of efforts or faith so I am laying down my worrying and just looking ahead and knowing I will find a way.
It has been a tumultuous 18 months - thank you all for your prayers and support that helped keep me going.
Let's switch all the energy over to helping Karen and Dan!!!!
Saturday, December 05, 2009
I left my house tuesday night in my pajamas (thanks to Jenn taking such good care of me I have clean pj's) but in pajamas I stay. I am seeing a lot of improvement but I have no idea how I will actually get back to work, I can walk but not sit. I don't know what the answer is to the healthcare problem - but I it is clear to me that people abuse pain killers in part because they are forced back to work too soon.
Pass a health care bill - we can always keep working on it - but something has to change.
Tuesday, May 26, 2009
Disappointing, but both sound constitutional decisions. On to the next step: CALIFORNIA CONSTITUTION ARTICLE 18 AMENDING AND REVISING THE CONSTITUTION SEC. 2.
Monday, February 09, 2009
Please don't force divorce on David Smith-Evan's family.
Have you heard that Ken Starr -- and the Prop 8 Legal Defense Fund -- filed California last year? The Supreme Court will hear oral arguments in this case on March 5, 2009, with a decision expected within the next 90 days.
Campaign has created a video called "Fidelity," with the permission of musician Regina Spektor, that puts a face to those 18,000 couples and all loving, committed couples seeking full equality under the law.
Please watch this heartbreaking video now. If you have the same reaction that I did, you can help spread the word by sharing it with your friends ASAP -- before the Valentine's Day deadline:
The more people who see this video, the more people will understand the pain caused by Prop 8 and Ken Starr's shameful legal proceeding.
After you watch the video, please join me and over 60,000 people who have signed a letter to the state Supreme Court, asking them to invalidate Prop 8 and reject Starr's case.
Thanks. defending the constitutionality of Prop 8 and attempting to forcibly divorce 18,000 same-sex couples that were married in
Friday, January 16, 2009
I have always committed to parking my car in the garage (when I've had a garage) it keeps your car clean and automatically controls what you keep.
What do you think?
Clearing a Space for Change
In life, we tend to have an easier time acquiring possessions than we do getting rid of them. Just as we harbor emotional baggage that is difficult to let go of, our lives can tend to be filled with material objects that we may feel compelled to hold on to. Most people are not conscious of how much they own and how many of their possessions are no longer adding value to their life. They fiercely hold on to material objects because this makes them feel secure or comfortable. While it’s true that the ownership of “stuff” can make you feel good for awhile, it seldom satisfies the deep inner longings that nearly everyone has for fulfillment and satisfaction. It is only when we are ready to let go of our baggage and be vulnerable that it becomes possible to recognize the emotional hold that our possessions can have on us.
It’s not uncommon to hold on to material objects because we are attached to them or fear the empty spaces that will remain if we get rid of them. Giving away the souvenirs from a beloved voyage may feel like we are erasing the memory of that time in our life. We may also worry that our loved ones will feel hurt if we don’t keep the gifts they’ve given us. It’s easy to convince ourselves that unused possessions might come in handy someday or that parting with them will cause you emotional pain. However, when your personal space is filled with objects, there is no room for anything new to enter and stay in your life. Your collection of belongings may “protect” you from the uncertainties of an unknown future while keeping you stuck in the past. Holding on to unnecessary possessions often goes hand in hand with holding on to pain, anger, and resentment, and letting go of your may help you release emotional baggage.
When you make a conscious decision to fill your personal space with only the objects that you need or bring you joy, your energy level will soar. Clearing your personal space can lead to mental clarity and an improved memory. As you learn to have a more practical and temporary relationship to objects, positive changes will happen, and you’ll have space to create the life that you desire.
Wednesday, January 07, 2009
Monday, December 01, 2008
Saturday, July 12, 2008
It is usually something in the worldbeat arena that you've never heard of, but it is A) free and 2) fun when it surprises you when you're in shuffle mode. I love it.
Sunday, July 06, 2008
Friday, June 13, 2008
It has been a roller coaster of a week. I went from finding out at 4pm on Monday that I was getting laid-off...to by 4pm on Friday having restructured my position and staying on the job with a company and in an industry I really love.
Thank you all for your encouragement, good energy and prayers.
Thursday, June 12, 2008
George, after hesitating: "What's that?"
Maura: "We're not breaking up."
George, after hesitating: "We're not?"
George, after hesitating even longer: "All right."
I'm using this approach to try to keep my job - wish me luck. I should know something on Friday.
Wednesday, June 04, 2008
Monday, June 02, 2008
Thursday, May 29, 2008
I was talking to mom the other day and the conversation made me think of this documentary I saw last year that was just excellent and I want to share it with the family. It is a struggle for me sometimes to live where laws and culture combine to treat me as less that a full citizen in this society. It can bear negatively on my self image, my personal safety and can just get plain tiring to fight for common civil rights that should be available to all. So, I want to express how gratified and blessed I am to have always been treated just perfect by each of you (and all your spouses). I have never had a single moment with any of my siblings where I was ever left feeling anything weird and I just wanted to tell how that I appreciate you all so much.
Anyway, why I want to share this film is because although you all treat me great I think that this really gives a voice to why you do. It gives a vocabulary and context that maybe as your kids get older, or you are in a position to counsel others - might serve to help to explain the important step beyond the "love the sinner hate the sin" mentality that is just not really good enough. Thank you all for always seeing me as more than that.
I'll be sending out DVD's in the next few weeks.
"Anyone and Everyone" tells the stories of families from Utah to North Carolina and Wyoming to New York, all connected by a common thread — a gay child. This poignant and often heartbreaking documentary by first-time filmmaker Susan Polis Schutz (also the parent of a gay son) reveals a family’s struggle and desire to accept a child’s sexual orientation.
The film features parents from a wide range of religions, ethnicities, and political leanings, all of whom discuss their initial reactions to their child's coming out. While some showed unconditional support, others struggled with their child’s sexual orientation, fearing alienation from their extended family, their church, or their community. Some simply did not understand the universal nature of homosexuality, and that it can affect anyone and everyone.
Whether Japanese, Cherokee, Mormon, Catholic, or Hindu, these families all share a deep love for their children, along with a struggle for acceptance, both in their own home and within society as a whole.
Monday, March 31, 2008
Friday, March 07, 2008
Halfway to work I noticed that the egg is gone. It is not rolling around on the car floor and once I got the the office I searched the car --- no egg!
Wednesday, February 20, 2008
Thursday, January 17, 2008
We won’t be sure what fell upon us
We’ll write in rhyme both day and night
Until ours heads aren’t screwed on tight
Through the family this could spread
Up hill, down dale where will it end
There’ll be no winner, no points to tally
Just prove you can you rhyme like Grandma Sally
Tuesday, January 08, 2008
I start the day a bit pre-stressed
I must, I can’t, I could, I should
I ponder, reflect - this can’t be good.
I brood, I fret, I second-guess
Chew-on, mull over - I’m such a mess
And then I slow the rumination
I shift into deliberation
Absorb, digest, assimilate
Whatever life brings will be just great
Then I breathe both long and deep
Tonight perhaps I’ll get some sleep.
Sunday, October 21, 2007
Tuesday, September 25, 2007
Brandi Carlile has a rare voice, consistently spilling over with honesty, purity, and passion. Her dynamic and tonal range is truly exceptional and on par with the likes of k.d. lang, Bonnie Raitt, and Patsy Cline--at times soft, swooping, and clear as a bell ("Turpentine," "Josephine," "Cannonball"), and then ferocious to the point of breaking ("The Story," "My Song"). A voice like Carlile's when paired with the right material is a winning combination, and The Story's country-meets-Radiohead ballads and rockers do not disappoint. While the songs on are not as consistently stellar as those on her self-titled debut album, they are more often than not solid, and show off her talents and confidence as both an artist and performer, which have fully bloomed since her debut. This, coupled with T Bone Burnett's light, live production style, creates an album that is ultimately more rewarding than her first. The high points on The Story have raised the bar considerably for Carlile, and they are frequent. Her choice to record the album in a live setting inside the studio lends it a raw intimacy and authenticity noticeably absent from most studio recordings, and leaves us with not only an album, but a work of art. Carlile is a career artist still defining her sound, but her maturity as a vocalist cannot be questioned--this is an immensely talented singer laying herself bare before us, and one of the strongest releases of 2007. --Alan Wiley